Dan Lyons’ Expert Insights for Peaceful Holiday Gatherings

The holiday season is synonymous with family, friends, and celebrations—but it can also bring unwelcome tension and disagreements. According to journalist Dan Lyons and his collaboration with DocuSign’s “Art of Agreement” series, avoiding holiday conflict often boils down to a few simple yet powerful strategies.

Why We Dread Holiday Get-Togethers
Recent surveys reveal that over half of us may feel anxious enough to skip holiday events altogether because of potential arguments. Yet, the same number also admits they truly want to attend these gatherings. So how can we reconcile our desire to celebrate with the fear of discord?

Three Tips for Conflict-Free Celebrations

Define Your Desired Outcome
Before you head out, ask yourself what you want by the end of the evening. Most of us aim to maintain harmony—not necessarily to “win” any debate. Reminding yourself of this goal sets a positive tone from the start.
Listen Actively
Curiosity is key. Ask questions and take a genuine interest in what the other person is saying. Even if you disagree, try to see where they’re coming from. Active listening helps de-escalate tension and fosters understanding.
Master the Magic Words: “Thank You”
When a relative or friend shares an opinion, responding with “Thank you” acknowledges their perspective without judging or invalidating it. It’s a simple phrase that can diffuse high emotions and keep conversations constructive.

Where to Learn More
For additional tips and deeper guidance on managing conflict, you can explore DocuSign’s expert recommendations. Whether you’re signing important documents or simply learning to create positive interactions, these approaches can help you navigate the holidays—and life—more smoothly.

So, before you head to that family reunion or office party, keep these strategies in mind. By defining your outcome, listening wholeheartedly, and showing gratitude, you’ll be well on your way to a joyful (and peaceful) holiday season.